Investing in relationships always has excellent ROI

I can still perfectly remember the first comment on my blog. It’s not about what the commentator said, it’s not about the fact that I was a great fan of the first person commenting, it was about receiving the first comment to something I had written and sparking a conversation. I was so thrilled!

Writing was a daily habit for me at the time. Be it novels, stories, essays, articles and projects for school, I have always enjoyed putting my thoughts on (real or electronic) paper. And I have always enjoyed having people read it and give me their feedback. So the part about having an outlet for my thoughts was not what hooked me to blogging. It was the comments, the conversation and the almost instant feedback. What kept the addiction going was the great number of friendships that resulted from my casual chat with fellow bloggers.

Some of the people I’ve met online have quit blogging, some just are in a different place right now, where we’re no longer able to connect. But what I’ve learned, the feeling of a geographically ignorant circle of friends stayed with me and are now stronger than ever.

Of my oldest friends, Sarah and Bart are still around. Bart has actually become one of my closest friends and a second father to me (if his daughters weren’t enough trouble :P ) and has supported me through painful breakups, career issues, health issues and shared lots of fun and amazing times with me. When it comes to online friendships, a lot of people say that real life meetings are disappointing. Never my case! Not with Bart, whom I visited together with my fiance, not with my big sis Trisi, not with Zu, or any other person I’ve met through my blog.

Since that first comment, I started meeting amazing people. Powerful, inspirational, funny, supportive, innovative, extremely bright. Mig, Joanna, Bogdan, Deb, Ali, Haal, Mohammed, Liz, Lou, Brad, Karen, Alex and so many more it’s impossible to mention them all and not remembering a few more names every other five minutes. Some of them are listed here, others are listed in my Google Reader (I’ve got about 300 subscriptions). If I wanted to write a personal thanking note to all of them, it would probably take me weeks and I’d get lost in the forest of memories quite soon after starting.

People talk about networking, making connections, I like to say I try my very best to build meaningful relationships through my blog. I don’t care nearly as much about rss subscribers, daily visits and ranks, as I care about the number of people I can call my friends and the impressive number of memories and experiences we’ve shared. Investing in such relationships does entail impressive ROI. Probably not the kind of ROI you might think of at first, but definitely more than you could ever wish for!

This is my contribution to and the official launch of the “Blogging and Relationships – Write about the wonderful people you’ve met!” Group Writing Project. In case you’ve forgotten the rules and prizes, here they are:

  • Publish an original article on your blog before February 28
  • You may only have one entry per blog. If you have more than one blog, lucky you :)
  • Link to the post announcing the group writing project
  • Comment on the announcement post, just to make sure I don’t miss your entry, we can’t always rely on trackbacks!

And the prizes:

  1. A copy of IttyBiz’ SEO School
  2. Depeche Mode – The Singles 86-98 in mp3 format (I love them and this particular collection holds all my favorites)
  3. A copy of Lillie Ammann’s “Dream or Destiny”

Additionally, along with these prizes, you’ll get 2 hours of free PR consulting from yours truly.

As for the jury I’ve told you about, the parts have been given to: Loredana, Alex and little old me.

Good luck everyone!

P.S. If you’re not among the names I’ve mentioned in this entry and feel you should be, you probably should :) And I did think of you when writting this post!

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This post has 11 comments

  • Brad Shorr

    Hi Alina, You summed up my feelings about blogging perfectly. It’s going to be hard to come up with an original post for your contest now. :) But seriously, I have met so many fantastic people through blogging … people I hope to know better in the years to come, long after statistics and rankings are forgotten.

    Brad Shorrs last blog post..The Home Page – How to Write a Website, Chapter 1

  • Joanna Young

    Alina, like Brad that’s how I feel too (and of course he’s one of the people I’m lucky enough to have met!)

    I’d add that your interactions with people on Twitter have added an additional dimension – that’s how I feel I really got to know you

    Something for which I’m very grateful

    Joanna Youngs last blog post..An Audacious New Look at Confident Writing: Come and See!

  • Deb S.

    Alina,

    I have to agree with Brad and Joanna. What a great post! You’ve set the standard for the writing project pretty high. :-)

    You’ve accomplished a lot as a blogger because of your hard work and the appreciation you show your readers. You are kind to mention me along with the many talented bloggers you know. Thank you.

    Deb S.s last blog post..Remembering Parade’s James Brady

  • Alina Popescu

    Brad, I am sure you’ll come up with something stunning! From what I’ve heard, it will all be about those you interact with pretty soon, and we’ll stop caring about rankings :)

    Joanna, you are right, Twitter did help a lot. Maybe I should start logging in there as well :) Hope I will after this crazy month!

    Deb, this blog is a lot less without its readers, so it’s a well deserved appreciation. And you’re being mentioned is well deserved!

  • Karen Swim

    Alina, you were one of my first friends through blogging. I instantly loved your warmth and inviting nature. You could discuss highly technical issues but always with a human spin. I also grew to learn more and be excited about your country because of your passionate portrayals in your writing. I dare say that your readers and friends would say that you are the one who ignites conversation by being approachable, and inviting. I am so glad that you’re here and so glad that we met!

  • Robyn McMaster

    I value all the times you have commented on my blog. You truly practice building relationships. Happy Birthday.

    Robyn McMasters last blog post..Zoning Out When Doing Routine Tasks?

  • Alina Popescu

    Karen, I the feeling is mutual. You are warm, inviting and above all a great inspiration to me! I’m glad you’ve gotten to know more about Romania, it really is a marvelous place!

    Robyn, thank you so much! You do indeed, you have replied all my comments in a way that sparked a new idea for the next comment and so on :)

  • Joanna Young

    Alina, could I bend the rules and make it about Twitter – still with the focus on relationships?

    Joanna Youngs last blog post..Fear and Love: The Theme Tune for Audacious Writing

  • Alina Popescu

    Joanna, yes, please bend the rules and make it about Twitter. It is micro-blogging in the end, isn’t it? :)

  • Andrew

    Alina,

    As a former accountant, it is refreshing for me to hear your broader perspective with respect to the concept of return on investment.

    Many people think of the concept of ‘investment’ and ‘return’ purely in financial terms. When it comes to relationships, it is true that some relationships do indeed entail a degree of monetary investment. Nevertheless, the main thing which we invest in relationships, I believe, is ourselves – our time, our love, our concern, our laughter and smiles, and our effort.

    Also, when it comes to the concept of a ‘return,’ again, some of the return may be in financial form, particularly with respect to business or employment relationships. That said, the main benefits which we derive from our investment in relationships are non-material in nature, such as the value of company as well as the feeling of being accepted, valued and loved.

    These benefits are much, much more significant in terms of quality of life than any material benefit which we may or may not derive from relationships.

    Andrews last blog post..How healthy is Apple’s disclosure?

  • confused

    It’s always worth engaging with people when they visit your blog, it makes a lot of sense to build up relationships which can help you exchange ideas and discover new and exciting areas that you may never find unless guided to. I’ve certainly learned a lot over this last year thanks to a few keen bloggers.
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